Meredith M won the Albion Fit cute shirt giveaway! Email me Meredith. Sorry it took me so long!!!
I'll be going to Sacramento this weekend as well to run that half marathon. I think Page and Roserunner may be there as well! To be frank, part of me is hoping that I get hit by a bus (and am miraculously unscathed except for on race day) so that I don't have to run. I'm afraid to embarrass myself and I'm afraid of the pain of racing.
I had a twitter conversation with Jocelyn where I jokingly said that I needed to write a "guide on what not to do in your twenties". This is mainly because she posts a lot of articles on similar topics. Also, I screwed up infinitely bad a billion times between ages 20 and 29. So I feel I'm an expert on messing up! Not to say I know everything now, but you know...I'm learning I'm learning.
Of course, this reflects my own experience of being an average college grad, not married, who graduated in decent economy (2005).
Everything I learned while in the 20-29 Age Group.
(second title don't do as I do, do as I say).
This is your time to do everything random you ever wanted to: Even without a bunch of cash, you can do a lot of cool shit in your twenties. It's not too late to learn. You wanted to join a roller derby? Do it. You want to learn a language? Find some CDs to listen to (or Mp3s!).
Just because your coworkers dress in Forever21 club gear doesn't mean you have to: Look at how the higher ups in your office dress and conduct themselves. Then copy them. If you're not sure if it's appropriate, it's probably not.
Professionally network. And pretend it's fun: Take every opportunity you can to attend industry dinners or sessions in your job field. Don't have your dream job? Find someone who is and become their best friend. Tag along to their industry activities. This stuff can be painful, but just tell yourself you're just "making friends". Be respectful and careful but have fun. Personal connections are the best kind of connections. Try to find a mentor.
Try to meet a ton of people, but be careful who you become close to: This ties into the last pieces of advice. All these activities will allow you to meet people. Lots of people are awesome. But many are not. Don't be afraid to keep your distance from friends and coworkers who make you sad or upset. Try to surround yourself with people who make you happy or are a good influence. Bottom line, if you hang out with a bunch of people you admire, you'll probably end up becoming closer to the person you want to be.
You're not too good to work at McDonald's: No one is. Just remember this, even if you never have to work in fast food.
Don't bring your personal life into work: I spent endless hours over-sharing my relationship woes at work in my early twenties. I cringe to think of the details I shared and am amazed no one told me how unprofessional I was being. Ew. This also applies to letting your personal life emotions bleed into your work life. I still struggle with this, but if you pretend work is a "safe place" to not think about other shit going on in your life, it can take you far.
If he only wants to talk to you after 12 AM or when drunk, he's an asshole. Erase his (or her!) number!!!!! 'Nuff said.
Things don't always work out. It's seldom personal: You know how you sometimes feel lonely or sad or unable to forge a good relationship? Yeah, other people are like that too. Don't take every failure or rejection personally - this can really be a soul-killer. It's usually a combination of factors.
Don't drink excessively/do drugs: McGruff was right (Edit...just realized this is the crime dog so this reference doesn't apply, oh well, there goes my trying to be funny...). I'd argue that the chemical effects of these activities are only part of why you should stay away. People who are into these things can be a generally bad influence (not always, but often). Odd are, you're probably better off making friends and blowing off steam by joining a soccer league.
Help others: Whether it's just helping a friend move, or becoming a regular volunteer at an organization you feel passionately about, get involved. This helped me a lot in my early twenties. If you feel you're directionless in every other area of your life, it can really help to start volunteering and feel needed.
Don't allow people give you less than what you deserve: Both personally and professionally. Research average salaries in your field. Know what you are worth. Salary negotiate if possible. If a friend or romantic connection is making you feel bad, try your best to move on from them. People will respect you for it and confidence is sexy.
Remember it won't last forever: This applies to life in general. No matter how terrible or awesome the experience is that you're going through, if you wait a little bit, chances are life will have changed. Hang in there.
Go get 'em. (What advice do you have for me or others?)